Lockdown Brides - What Now?
The brides of 2020 have been thrown the mother of all curveballs that no Jennifer Lopez movie could have predicted.
Wait. No. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Source: GiPHY
This year has been rough on everyone - people with kids, small business owners, people who love brunch - and of course, brides. Weddings cancelled globally has not just affected us (yes, I am one) but the whole industry - from catering and dress-making to wedding planners and sad gift registries. We speak with brides whose weddings were cancelled on what they plan to do now. Still going ahead? Eloping? Fucking the whole thing off and buying a house instead?
For myself, I had a big fat Jewish wedding planned, with 200+ people from home and abroad. Four weeks out, when I'd painstakingly written out every place card, my run sheet to the minute (do you not have a run sheet with events going from 4:03pm - 4:17pm? Okay weirdo) and my crash dieting was at its limit, we had to cancel.
It was absolutely crushing. I howled with tears all weekend, but to be honest, the anxiety over choosing whether or not to cancel (this was early days) was sooo much worse. In the end, of course, the decision would have been made for us anyway. We decided we still wanted to get married (I feel a big part of this was that my husband had already paid to get the wedding date inscribed on his ring, no refunds) in some shape or form. We tried to plan a small garden ceremony, but when that was axed as well, we went the only place we couldn't get kicked out - our own living room. With 300 people tuning in from all over the world, it was not my dream, but it was most certainly a lockdown highlight. (What's that? We got in the paper and on the radio with Hughesy & Ed because of it? Guys, who brought that up, you know I hate the limelight...)
Our friends and family were wonderful, with gifts and salutations sent to still make us feel special on the day despite everything. We see ourselves as married (even if not legally yet) and hope to still have our big day when we are allowed. I personally refuse to plan anything now in a pandemic because the anxiety of impending doom gives me night sweats, but hope we can do it eventually, even if kids now come beforehand (sacrilege!) But how do our other brides feel?
Like this, really. Source: GiPHY
We will go ahead no matter what!
'Our wedding was supposed to be today. We decided to postpone, as we have three children and they would not have been allowed to come. We are having a low key wedding (as we are not overly fancy people) on the rooftop of a hotel in Bundoora, and the reception at a bowls club. We postponed until February 2021. We will then go ahead no matter what!' Christine, 38
To have a wedding or not?
'We were meant to have a big wedding in October 2020, which we were forced to cancel in Melbourne. Currently, our wedding is re-booked in for March 2021, but not knowing what the new year will bring is making it hard to mentally commit to anything. I have slated the first week of January as crunch time as I will want to get invites out within six weeks (if not longer) of the wedding day. However, now that we have saved all the money for the wedding it is a bit hard to imagine spending it all on one day, so we are also considering the sensible path of using it to upsize our home instead. But throwing the most epic end of Covid party would be pretty amazing (as well as the getting married part, I guess!)' Steph, 31
Let him handle it
'Our wedding is planned for March 2021, so we are just waiting. My fiance did nearly all the planning (groomzilla!) so we are just hoping it can still go ahead and will make a decision closer to the day.' Simone, 30